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DIY Organic Coconut +Coffee +Sugar Scrub

By far one of my favorite DIY body and face scrub that smells high-end without the hefty price tag! The ingredients are as natural as you want them to be, and most of them you probably already have. 

I would advise a light pour with the coconut oil because of the not-so- pleasant oil stains in your tub later (trust me). Also, if you live in an old building, chances are your pipes will clog too. Less is more.

The real benefit of this scrub is its soothing properties for dry, damaged, and dull skin. I use this scrub when my skin is taking all kinds of hits. It’s the best thing to do the night before a major event. Please be gentle, and if you are using it on your face, maybe scrub two days before a major event.

Ingredients you’ll need:

100% Unrefined coconut oil – 1.5 tablespoon – is an antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory. 

Organic honey – 1.5 tablespoons – a humectant, excellent for dry skin, and acne. My honey is from Ecuador.

Sugar – 4 tablespoons – organic is excellent if you have it, but mine is plain old sugar – great for acne, and clogged pores.

Coffee – 2 tablespoons – organic is great, but I used the regular old Folgers brand. Make sure it’s not flavored coffee!

You’ll need a container with depth; that way, it won’t go flying around the countertop when you mix the sticky solution (honey). I used an old container and then poured the ingredients into the saucer in this photo.

Don’t clean utensils with alcohol since it can mess up the smell. Use regular dish soap and then pat dry with a towel or napkin. 

Step 1. Gather all of the dry ingredients, sugar and coffee, and mix them in the container.  

Step 2. Once they are thoroughly mixed, pour a tablespoon of coconut oil, and mix again. 

Step 3. Add the honey and mix until you can see the grains combine. 

Finish: The consistency is supposed to be the soft clump kind. Not too sticky where it turns into balls, but not too weak where they can’t combine. That way, when you scrub your body, it can actually cover the areas you want to polish. 

After your scrub, lather some oil or your favorite moisturizer as if your life depended on it and you’re finished!

You can leave the scrub in the fridge when you’re not using it. I keep mine for about a week since I scrub about 2-3x a week. Don’t let it sit too long in the fridge since it goes bad sooner than later. Since there aren’t preservatives like “citric acid” you may want to toss after five days. I make small batches to limit waste.

I hope you liked it!

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Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k by Mark Manson

It’s an easy book to read that wants to encourage you not to care about the little things, by caring only about the things that matter. A bit idealistic, and somewhat self-indulgent. Either way, I still enjoyed a few bits.

Check out the paperback version or the audio version.

Some of it made me want to give a F***k…

Read it if: You think you have too much on your plate, not enough “time,” and sh**priorities. Read it, if you want to better understand why you do what you do (and how to stop if it’s what you’re craving). Also, read it if you want to hear some wisecracks you’d probably think to yourself but never say out loud.

It’s about: Learning not to care but actually care a lot about what you want to gain out of life. Mark has a bit of a philosophical approach to your troubles, in where he tells you flat out that you’re going to die, and maybe, you should start giving a f***k about the things that truly matter and less so, of the trivial things.

Is it funny: Sometimes. Not the best comic relief, if that’s what you’re looking for, but entertaining.

The cover:  As you can see, ORANGE. It reminded me of this one time, where I went to an interview, and the walls were as bright as this color. When I asked the Recruiter why they chose orange, she told me it was because it calms the interviewees down. I’m guessing Mark Manson’s intention was to calm down his readers as well. Note taken.

Do I recommend it: I think this book is a regurgitation and amalgamation of the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene and 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. Though these two books are my favorites, I feel that the S.A.N.G.A.F, is more of a light skimming of the two, so I didn’t really feel as though I gained thorough knowledge from it. It’s great for an easy read and not an in-depth approach to your troubles. Don’t expect it to scalpel through your deep desires and pour over your greatest struggles. I’d say that this book will suit those who have a perceived normal/tiny bit volatile lifestyle. 

Rating: C+

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Black and White Classic Casual Wear

Can you believe we are at the end of 2020? I can’t either—cheers to the new year, in black and white everything.

 

The black bodysuit is from Boohoo. I’m wearing a size 10(m); I feel like a 5lb sausage in a 3lb bag, so please be sure to measure yourself. I may have lost all sensation in my arms for this photo op, but worth it for you guys. The detail in this bodysuit is beautiful. You can wear it with a skirt or with pants, which is great for versatility. 

I love white, but I’m not blessed enough to maintain things the same color. Usually, I ruin white articles with makeup, my dog’s hair, and pen stains.

My pants are from American Eagle. This brand is great for short term use. The only issue (my fault) is the hip/waist ratio. My love handles don’t like to be hugged, and it’s a bit too low for me, so make sure you’re comfortable in the kind of rise you purchase.

Shoes are by BCBGeneration. I love this brand!! They look sexy, clean, and again, it’s all about versatility for me. I need to dress outfits up and down for me to buy them. Make sure you have flats nearby if you are planning on walking in heels. Tip: rub deodorant on your feet to prevent friction, but not on open skin!

I cannot tell you how much I miss wearing pumps. Before quarantine, I planned to buy new pairs of shoes and dumped about eight. Then covid hit, and now I’m just sitting by shoeless (I’m exaggerating). No point in getting anything now, since there’s nowhere to go (*cries in silence*). 

For accessories, I kept it simple since the colors are what pop out the most.

The purse is from Nine West. It’s pretty old and has held up exceptionally well. You can find inexpensive quality bags at Marshall’s, but they don’t always pop up. This tote I found online has a similar feel but shop around for your perfect size. I wouldn’t say I like big bags, since I’m short.

My watch is from Kapten and Son in rose gold. Classic, clean, and wrist slamming durable.

Earrings: They are simple teardrop looking with a rose gold/nude hint to them. They were a gift from a friend, but here are some similar-looking ones. If you have a round face, long earrings usually compliment it well.

I added another bag. ^ it’s a mini book-bag from Kapten & Son to make this outfit a bit more playful.

What are you wearing for the New Year? 

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Decluttering Tips for Home or Office

Have you seen those IG pages with pristine homes or offices that are clean and perfectly organized? The kind that make you look at your space and and think, “-shit”.  

Fab Photo by Liana Mikah

Covid-19 has transformed our home into one big birdcage. It’s where we work, exercise, sleep, eat, and even vacation. But how do you relax when there is so much junk everywhere? 

I’ve told my sister about the idea of decluttering her apartment, and she tells me, “I don’t plan on staying here that much longer, maybe a year or so.” But that’s too long to wait! Sitting in a space that is not peaceful, organized, and calming is not worth the money you’re saving.

I’m here to help you organize it; it will be a therapeutic process and change how you feel for the better.

The best way to declutter; start with these simple steps:

  1. Divide the home/office into rooms. Then divide those individual rooms into spaces. (ex: bedroom or a kitchen office)
  2. Once you’ve selected a room (ex: bedroom/kitchen office) – Start categorizing the space.
    1. Drawers – You will start cleaning all drawers in the space first.
    2. Closets – You will start cleaning all drawers in the space second.
    3. Visible space areas – You will start cleaning all v/a in the space third.
  3. Then divide whatever you find in the three categories above into 3 categories.
    1. Things I still use/need.
    2. Things I have not used in 6 months/want to give away.
    3. Things that have no meaning/value (Ex: an old vacation globe that takes up space, a notebook that collects dust, an old I love LA shirt you don’t use).
  4. Know your color palette/style – Not only do you have to throw things out, but you also have to ask yourself, “does this go with the color scheme in this room?”. If not, your place will look like a Macy’s showroom.
  5. Grab a trash bag, and promise to fill it – Fill the bag with things you don’t need and be honest with yourself. How does said item provide peace and meaning in your space?
  6. Create a monthly decluttering schedule – Once a month, commit to decluttering your space. Set a minimal amount of items to either chuck or donate, ex: 5 items per month. The more you do this, the less hours you’ll spend cleaning through mountains of junk. Remember, your time is expensive. 

Benefits: This will ease your mental anxiety over the space and help you find things you always seem to misplace, creating real savings; your time. We spend so much time that we can never get back doing things we could have avoided. By keeping your space organized and clean, it will free your mind and time to do what you truly love!

You will not be able to do this in one sitting, and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself. By decluttering your space, you’ll be able to live/work in an area that fills you with comfort, security, and tranquility. You will also find unique items you forgot you had and help you let go of things that no longer suit your lifestyle or decor. You’ll even think twice before buying!

Hope this helps ❤️

Review: Act Like a Success Think Like a Success by Steve Harvey

Reviewing Comedian and Talk Show Host Steve Harvey’s book. No spoilers just review bites.

A great self-help book. Emphasis on self-help. Created with generous sprinkles of humor, a few personal stories, and touching relatability.

Check out the audio book version from Scribed

Read it if: You have a great idea with a foggy plan and are on the ledge. If you’re asking yourself what to do with your life and have a hunch. This book will help you leap into your dream –with a plan.

What’s it about: Steve provides research, personal stories, and templates so you can move forward with your vision. This isn’t some overpaid celebrity talking fluff. At least not in this book. He provides strategies such as the SMART: S.(specific), M.(measurable), A.(achievable) R.(relevant), T.(time-sensitive) system for your goals, along with a vision board and questions that really do help.

Is it funny: Yes, but it’s not really a book for sh**s and giggles. He provides stories of personal struggles that are always great and relatable. Beyond the worksheets, he includes information on family, health, money, mental states, and such.

The cover: The colors resemble power, stability, and a bit of a college text-booky vibe. Don’t worry; it’s not heavy whatsoever.  Regardless, Steve looks successful and approachable. You also can’t miss his projector-sized teeth, which, I have to admit, makes me a bit jealous.

Do I recommend it: The one thing we didn’t agree upon, and it’s a personal choice, is God. I’m Agnostic, so I can’t really relate to this, but I respect him for it and appreciate his spiritual honesty. Other than that, this book is solid. Great job, Steve. I loved it!

Rating: A

4 Signs Your Job Is a Toxic Work Environment (Part 1)

Fab photo by: Israel Andrade

“The fish starts stinking from the head,” is a well known saying in business. It means, that you should look at the top of the hierarchy if there is something wrong with your company culture.

Many of us have considered the phrase “should I quit my job?” I’ve been there too.

Strictly based on experience, I’ve compiled a list of situations you should look out for, if you believe the next step is to hand in your two weeks.

Definitions: They; meaning your supervisors/ managers or CEO’s.

  1. They manipulate you into digging dirt against your co-workers There was a time where one of my supervisors sat down with one of my co-workers and said (lies) about how others were complaining about a said co-worker. They stated that after speaking to the rest of the team (myself included), conclusions were drawn that we were all uncomfortable with said colleague. Let’s name him Cillian. My co-worker called me frustrated and confused. I then told him what our supervisor was asking from me and others (stuff on Cillian) and then realized that they fabricated parts of the story to see if my colleague would confess or, get this, dig further information (dirt) against others our team. – Shameful.
  2. They slander your colleagues in front of you – One of my supervisors was guilty of doing this. They burst into the room I was in, and started breaking another colleague down, telling me how poor their skills were, how they heard around the bend that they’ve been doing this and that, and not even considering my time or place. Not to mention there was another person in the room, but that didn’t matter. All I could think was, “If you’re doing this to them, what do you say about me?” – Very uncomfortable, lacked diplomacy.
  3. Your supervisors don’t know you or care to know anything about you. You are never asked how you are doing, mentally or otherwise – A business needs to thrive, and many of its resources will be put into things like marketing campaigns, hiring strategies, and policies to name a few, but it should also consider its worker’s mental health. If you notice that your executive team is uninterested in making strides to get to know their team or invest in checking in, chances are, they never will. This is dangerous because they are making a choice to de-humanize their workforce and will burn through their employees ad nauseam.
  4. They do not give you the tools you need to succeed – This is laughable, but an ugly truth. Do you know what the essential tools for success are? In-depth training is a major component. Certain companies may expect their new hire to learn the ropes of their trade, based “common sense”. Yes, while this may be true to some extent, you should never leave an employee to use their common sense on your dime. Remember, you’re only as good as your weakest link. Also, besides training tools, things like SAAS (software as a service), devices, and or productivity tools are also overlooked.

If you see these red flags, do your diligence and bring this up to your supervisors. However, if they do not listen, be prepared to run. There’s a reason turnover exists, and it’s not just because of one thing -guaranteed.

Share your red flags, it might help someone.

What Happens When Someone Flirts With Your Partner + Storytime

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Okay, he’s not that funny though..

Storytime: About two summers ago, my boyfriend and I went on this bar crawl with some friends. Let’s cut to the chase: A woman with the same name as my partner came over to share that neat factoid. “You and I have the same name; haha, wow, haha wow!” I think she mentioned something about the universe, and I just tuned out right after. Turns out the she overheard the bartender speaking to him, and that’s how she overheard this commonality.

My boyfriend was caught off guard but politely engaged [a little too well]. After that, they also found out that they spoke the same language. It was …awkward..It was like watching a really bad romantic comedy, with the shitty lighting and stiff rubbernecking.

As I sat across the table from him, watching this whole fiasco, and I couldn’t help but feel invisible. At first, I was like, meh, let’s give her the minute she craved, and then she can be on her merry way… but she kept ..slurring her words… and, (what drove me nuts), T-O-U-C-H-I-N-G. That’s when I lost my shit. I was waiting for my boyfriend to escort baby girl off the main stage, but he kept talking lol! I didn’t jump in, because it would just make things worse, but it was extremely frustrating.

It hurt me, but it had nothing to do with him (technically), it was the old memories of my past relationships coming back again. I wanted to yell, “can you just cut off the conversation? Like, now?”! Nope, the convo kept going, and there was more touching on her part. * Rage has entered the chat*

-After she left, I. Chewed. Him. Out.

Was I right? No. All I could think was; if that was me, and a guy was touching me, and I’d continue to engage while my partner sat there watching us, it would be disrespectful!

He denied it being an issue, and we fought about it, like cats in an alley. I went home pissed, and he stayed out with our friends the rest of the night.

Interestingly enough, many of my friends said he did nothing wrong and that I was overreacting. Though it might have been 100% true, I didn’t think so at the time. I felt as though he crossed the most sacred foundation I recently built, before I met him; boundaries.

MORAL I: Don’t be like me, but be like me. Set up healthy boundaries, and tell your partner what they are. Sometimes being insecure doesn’t mean you don’t think you’re the shit. Sometimes, not always, It’s trauma you’ve endured, and your lizard brain goes to the past, to protect you from the present/future. So what if you need reassurance. Boundaries are your training wheels.

MORAL II: It is not necessarily the disrespectful stranger that’s the problem; it’s actually how your partner responds to their advances that are of value. You’re both a team, so whatever comes your way, both of you should have the other in mind when things like this happen. Set clear boundaries, ones that are reasonable and that you too can uphold.

I still stand by my feelings and I expect to have my boundaries respected. If they are seen as unreasonable, I’m willing to listen, but there’s never a need to stay if either of our boundaries are crossed. After all, it’s about being happy with your choices. Make sure you remember that.

When you get to be old, you stop giving a shit about what people think. They’re going to judge you no matter what, so you might as well stay true to your heart.

-See ya!