4 Signs Your Job Is a Toxic Work Environment (Part 1)

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“The fish starts stinking from the head,” is a well known saying in business. It means, that you should look at the top of the hierarchy if there is something wrong with your company culture.

Many of us have considered the phrase “should I quit my job?” I’ve been there too.

Strictly based on experience, I’ve compiled a list of situations you should look out for, if you believe the next step is to hand in your two weeks.

Definitions: They; meaning your supervisors/ managers or CEO’s.

  1. They manipulate you into digging dirt against your co-workers There was a time where one of my supervisors sat down with one of my co-workers and said (lies) about how others were complaining about a said co-worker. They stated that after speaking to the rest of the team (myself included), conclusions were drawn that we were all uncomfortable with said colleague. Let’s name him Cillian. My co-worker called me frustrated and confused. I then told him what our supervisor was asking from me and others (stuff on Cillian) and then realized that they fabricated parts of the story to see if my colleague would confess or, get this, dig further information (dirt) against others our team. – Shameful.
  2. They slander your colleagues in front of you – One of my supervisors was guilty of doing this. They burst into the room I was in, and started breaking another colleague down, telling me how poor their skills were, how they heard around the bend that they’ve been doing this and that, and not even considering my time or place. Not to mention there was another person in the room, but that didn’t matter. All I could think was, “If you’re doing this to them, what do you say about me?” – Very uncomfortable, lacked diplomacy.
  3. Your supervisors don’t know you or care to know anything about you. You are never asked how you are doing, mentally or otherwise – A business needs to thrive, and many of its resources will be put into things like marketing campaigns, hiring strategies, and policies to name a few, but it should also consider its worker’s mental health. If you notice that your executive team is uninterested in making strides to get to know their team or invest in checking in, chances are, they never will. This is dangerous because they are making a choice to de-humanize their workforce and will burn through their employees ad nauseam.
  4. They do not give you the tools you need to succeed – This is laughable, but an ugly truth. Do you know what the essential tools for success are? In-depth training is a major component. Certain companies may expect their new hire to learn the ropes of their trade, based “common sense”. Yes, while this may be true to some extent, you should never leave an employee to use their common sense on your dime. Remember, you’re only as good as your weakest link. Also, besides training tools, things like SAAS (software as a service), devices, and or productivity tools are also overlooked.

If you see these red flags, do your diligence and bring this up to your supervisors. However, if they do not listen, be prepared to run. There’s a reason turnover exists, and it’s not just because of one thing -guaranteed.

Share your red flags, it might help someone.

The Day I Asked A Doctor For A Refund (Storytime)

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Wether you like to believe it or not. They too are a business. TLDR: Ask questions, and always state your frustrations so that both parties are equally responsible and aware for the outcome.

Y’all -I’ve wanted to get fillers for my cheeks for a while now. They’re looking a bit shit. It’s not something serious, but I’ve noticed that there’s a loss of volume and thought about getting a consultation for over a year. 

It was time for me to commit, so I researched this particular doctor. He was also where my dermatologist was and so I thought it could be someone worth trusting.

I spent $XXX.XX for an 8-minute consultation with zero information on side effects information, healing time, types of filler brands, nor procedure steps. I also paid two Uber rides (to and from $55.00 +tip )—WHAT.

I waited for over a month to meet this “doctor.” It’s like he had an allergy to the stool he was sitting on. He sat extremely close to me. I wonder if this was a tactic to make patients insecure and add on extra procedures, but I tell you that he was less than an arm’s length near me. Did I mention there’s covid lurking in the background (the year is 2021 ya’ll). Soon after, herded me to the front “we’ll get you set up at the front for the price.” That’s it. After expressing that I did not know much about fillers, and that I was super nervous (said it like twice). 

I walked out to the front, wondering what the next step were. Do I pay and then get more information for what I may do? Nope. He price tagged me for 1.VOLUMA for the cheeks running at $1,225 and then lips 2. Juvederm $895 (A WHOLE SYRINGE) no other details in place.  

You may be thinking “If you can’t afford it, then maybe you shouldn’t be getting it”. Sorry, no, incorrect. I can afford it—I’m conservative about how I spend. Just because I have, it doesn’t mean I go throwing it in people’s hands; you earn it like I do. At least tell me why this brand amongst all others are worth my while? Who should not get fillers, what are the allergies or risks associated – NOTHING.

AND: My friend got her lips done, and her dermatologist gave her ALL of the details, making her feel the most comfortable, and LISTENED. She told her that she didn’t need to go with a full syringe, so she gave her half a syringe, mind you her lips are smaller than mine. HOW. HOW is that even ok?!

IT GETS BETTER: After leaving the consult room to ask for the “prices,” I stand there like a fucking idiot and go. Ok.. “So, do I wait here or…” and they go, -“OH. No, you come BACK IN ANOTHER MONTH and get the procedure done or you can travel to his OTHER office”. 

WHAT????????? QUE????? Что??????? WAS????????????

With a stupid look on my face I looked at him for an explanation and he goes “Oh no, it’s not today (like it was absurd to assume, in his up-talking manner), I have two other surgeries (yeah, great) so, I can’t do it today, and I want to dedicate at least 30 to 40 minutes on you..didn’t anyone tell you that?”  

… The receptionist was also confused. I looked at her… she looked at me… I looked at her… she looked at me. Awkward smiles approached. Even when they were discussing the prices, it was so awkward. As if it was super uncomfortable for me to stand there as they discussed prices THAT I (my partner’s bday gift to me) was going to pay for. 

SO AWKWARD SOOOOOOO AWKWARD.

I left and said thank you, completely frazzled and stupified; I left thinking.. why did I even make an appointment? I wouldn’t let that man touch me for anything in the world right now. 

The extreme lack of kindness, thoughtfulness was very disheartening. No care in the world to say, “HEY- LADY WHO IS NERVOUS about FILLERS. Here’s what we do have. By the way, there are many different kinds of fillers. This is what I suggest based on your price range, these are the side effects, and based on what you think is deserving we will take it from there; what do you think?” 

FW UPDATE: After being transferred endless times and finally getting ahold of someone after speaking with 8 people (not kidding) and one lovely cow who said “UHH OHKAY” when I told her my issue, I finally reached the general manager who understood and apologized about the experience.

The silver lining? If you think something is not sitting well, listen to your gut. Don’t ignore it. I was patient and tried to keep myself calm. I kept trying and trying and finally got to speak with someone. It’s not ideal to wait almost a week but I had to try. Issue has been resolved and I will not be doing anything with that office again.

I’m cool. I’m cool. I swear.

Prevent Yourself From Getting Fired With These 5 Tips (Horrible Boss Edition)

You have a disorganized, rude, and inappropriate supervisor who always wants to throw you under the bus. You’re sick of it and are afraid they may jeopardize your job. Here’s what you do:

Before I begin, I wanted to shout out all my friends in the US, Russia, Sweden, Denmark, Turkey, Canada, UK, Romania, Germany, and Ireland!! Thank you so much for visiting my page and taking time out of your day to read my tips, rants, and raves! I appreciate you and would love to hear your comments (I have Google translate). Big hugs to you!

  1. Read your handbook and job descriptionUpon hire, you must, I say, you must read your employee handbook and make sure you know all of your responsibilities and rights. If you ever find yourself arguing with your supervisor, look to your handbook and see what the next steps are. If there are none, email HR and write a clear statement of facts. The handbook will help you perform your best and prevent you from overlooking important strategies in problem solving situations.
  2. Try to move forward – Sometimes people have bad days, and that’s okay. But make sure they are aware that you are not afraid to speak up for yourself and that you want to work things out. Always show cooperation. If you do this, it will deter them from trying to start arguments with you.
  3. Be polite – Even when you don’t mean it. Do your best to be polite and stick to the facts. No matter the issue, show your professional conduct at all times despite others’ lack thereof. Why? Because they will have nothing to use against you. People make mistakes, but people are terminated for things other than work performance. Lying, gossiping, and creating a hostile work environment to name a few.
  4. Write everything down As soon as something happens, write it down. I know that sounds time-consuming, but the truth is (I deal with cases like these at work) when your supervisors ask you the details of events, it’s super important that you write and recollect things in detail the moment it happens, or at least within the first few hours. This information will impact your inquiries/concerns or complaints.
  5. Email HR: HR is there to protect you and the company; don’t forget that. Speak with your HR manager or hire up about having a team meeting. Remember, you do not attack the other party; that weakens your complaint. Explain the facts contemporaneously so they can analyze. If you attack your manager, it will look like a personal vendetta, and that’s where HR may see this as an attack and could very well not want this to happen with other co-workers. Don’t do this. Show them clear examples of the issues that violate the company handbook, but do not, I repeat, do not attack. Simply point out the problems, and be willing to work with moving forward. Be sure to state in your inquiry that you want to make sure that you can both work professionally and kind with one another, and you are taking all necessary actions help assist with this.

Have a great week ahead.