“The fish starts stinking from the head,” is a well known saying in business. It means, that you should look at the top of the hierarchy if there is something wrong with your company culture.
Many of us have considered the phrase “should I quit my job?” I’ve been there too.
That’s why I’ve compiled a list of situations you should look out for, if you believe the next step is to hand in your two weeks.
Definitions: They; meaning your supervisors/ managers or CEO’s.
They manipulate you into digging dirt against your co-workers – There was a time where one of my supervisors sat down with one of my co-workers and said (lies) about how others were complaining about a said co-worker. They stated that after speaking to the rest of the team (myself included), conclusions were drawn that we were all uncomfortable with said colleague. Let’s name him Cillian. My co-worker called me frustrated and confused. I then told him what our supervisor was asking from me and others (stuff on Cillian) and then realized that they fabricated parts of the story to see if my colleague would confess or, get this, dig further information (dirt) against others our team. – Shameful.
They slander your colleagues in front of you – One of my supervisors was guilty of doing this. They burst into the room I was in, and started breaking another colleague down, telling me how poor their skills were, how they heard around the bend that they’ve been doing this and that, and not even considering my time or place. Not to mention there was another person in the room, but that didn’t matter. All I could think was, “If you’re doing this to them, what do you say about me?” – Very uncomfortable, lacked diplomacy.
Your supervisors don’t know you or care to know anything about you. You are never asked how you are doing, mentally or otherwise– A business needs to thrive, and many of its resources will be put into things like marketing campaigns, hiring strategies, and policies to name a few, but it should also consider its worker’s mental health. If you notice that your executive team is uninterested in making strides to get to know their team or invest in checking in, chances are, they never will. This is dangerous because they are making a choice to de-humanize their workforce and will burn through their employees ad nauseam.
They do not give you the tools you need to succeed – This is laughable, but an ugly truth. Do you know what the essential tools for success are? In-depth training is a major component. Certain companies may expect their new hire to learn the ropes of their trade, based “common sense”. Yes, while this may be true to some extent, you should never leave an employee to use their common sense on your dime. Remember, you’re only as good as your weakest link. Also, besides training tools, things like SAAS (software as a service), devices, and or productivity tools are also overlooked.
If you see these red flags, do your diligence and bring this up to your supervisors. However, if they do not listen, be prepared to run. There’s a reason turnover exists, and it’s not just because of one thing -guaranteed.
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Here’s what you do:
Read your handbook and job description – Upon hire, you must, I say, you must read your employee handbook and make sure you know all of your responsibilities and rights. If you ever find yourself arguing with your supervisor, look to your handbook and see what the next steps are. If there are none, email HR and write a clear statement of facts. The handbook will help you perform your best and prevent you from overlooking important strategies in problem solving situations.
Try to move forward – Sometimes people have bad days, and that’s okay. But make sure they’re aware that you aren’t afraid to speak up for yourself and that you want to work things out. Always show cooperation. If you do this, it will deter them from trying to start future arguments with you.
Be polite– Even when you don’t mean it. Do your best to be polite and stick to the facts. No matter the issue, show your professional conduct at all times despite others’ lack thereof. Why? Because they will have nothing to use against you. People make mistakes, but people are terminated for things other than work performance. Lying, gossiping, and creating a hostile work environment to name a few.
Write everything down– As soon as something happens, write it down. I know that sounds time-consuming, but the truth is (I deal with cases like these at work) when your supervisors ask you the details of events, it’s super important that you write and recollect things in detail the moment it happens, or at least within the first few hours. This information will impact your inquiries/concerns or complaints.
Email HR:HR is there to protect youand the company; don’t forget that. Speak with your HR manager or hire up about having a team meeting. Remember, you do not attack the other party; that weakens your complaint. Explain the facts contemporaneously so they can analyze. If you attack your manager, it will look like a personal vendetta, and HR may see it as such and very well not want this to happen again. Demonstrate clear examples of the issues that violate the company handbook, but do not, I repeat, do not attack. Simply point out the problems, and be willing to work with moving forward. Be sure to state in your inquiry that you want to make sure that you can both work professionally and kind with one another, and you are taking all necessary actions help assist with this.
These tips helped me develop more self-love, and I never thought I’d say that! Not in any particular order. 🥰
Dress for the occasion– If I dress like I’m going to do laundry when I have a date night with my partner, guess what, the vibe for me (for me) is off. I love dressing up and looking cute/bathed, whatever you want to call it. This reminds me of (story time); when I interviewed a candidate for a front desk associate position. I kid you not. This woman came in as if she was ready for the club. Her nails were the size of Texas, skin-tight pants, and a tube top. She looked out of place for the front desk associate position. It felt far from appropriate. It was a painful interview; she was too busy worried about her appearance rather than on the questions. Be your BFF, dress for the occasion, and coach yourself.
Have a hobby– This may sound vague, but you need to do something that fulfills you and makes you happy outside of the everyday bustle. It can be a sport, writing, learning a new language or reading, anything that you do for yourself, with out the need of someone else to do it with you (but awesome if they want to join in).
Have an opinion– And don’t be afraid of it. I’ve said some really stupid shit in my youth, and some at my age currently. I’m not perfect, but I’m always open to having my opinions challenged and open to learning from my gaffes. Open to change. Having an idea, and being okay with expressing it, builds your confidence. Otherwise, how will you ever think freely!?
Self-care – The times where I feel confident and loved are when I do my skincare rituals, healthy smoothies (that last for about a week), and all the things that make me feel like a woman. Whatever self-care means for you. Do it. Try to do it consistently.
Loving yourself also means challenging your biases, and being thoughtful about your choices. It means being kind to the child inside of you, protecting your heart when others dismiss your emotions. It takes time, but it’s well worth it to start now if you haven’t done so already.