5 Questions to Ask Your Zoom Date (Covid-19 Edition)

If someone were to tell me in 2019 that 2020 would happen the way it did, I probably would have said, “you’re a mess”. Aaaaand then, 2020 came around.

Fab photo by Jed Villejo via Unsplash

So for all my single people who are single and want to date as safely as possible. I’ve written a few questions to help you break the ice. If all else fails, let me know. I love hearing how Zoom dates go. I’ve never done one!

  1. How do you feel about scrubbing floors and plunging toilets? – Yes, I’m for real. Look at their reaction. This is a great ice breaker. It also helps you see how they feel about doing manual labor. It’s supposed to be in jest. If they have a sense of humor, great, but if they take offense… run. I also like catching people off guard, because that’s where you see the real them most often. Try it, what do you have to lose?
  2. How would your friends describe you in the group? This is a great question; I even use it during interviews. Generally, this shows you where the person is in the hierarchy and how they view themselves, funny, introverted, serious, etc.
  3. What’s the best dish you’re known for? Great question if you’re a foody and get to know the kind of food they enjoy. If you are planning on an in-person date down the line, you have all the details.
  4. Do you have a favorite comedian? Do they have a sense of humor? If so, what kind? Is it something that will align with yours? For me it’s Bill Burr (love him, still do) because he’s straight up and an acquired taste for some people. Thankfully my partner also appreciated his type of comedy.
  5. Who’s the most inspiring person you know? Who they look up to will say a lot about their values and why they matter to them. Values are at the core of a personality, and will determine the conversations and memories you will choose to share.

If you guys liked this post, let me know, and I’ll make another. Good luck out there, and make sure you never ever, ever, ever, settle. Ever.

Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k by Mark Manson

It’s an easy self-help book to read, that encourages you not to care about the little things, only the things that matter. A bit idealistic, and somewhat self-indulgent. Either way, I still enjoyed a few bits.

Check out the paperback version or the audio version.

Some of it made me want to give a F***k…

Read it if: You think you have too much on your plate, not enough “time,” and sh**priorities. Read it, if you want to better understand why you do what you do (and how to stop if it’s what you’re craving). Also, read it if you want to hear some wisecracks you’d probably think to yourself but never say out loud.

It’s about: Learning not to care but actually care a lot about what you want to gain out of life. Mark has a bit of a philosophical approach to your troubles, in where he tells you flat out that you’re going to die, and maybe, you should start giving a f*ck about the things that truly matter and less so, of the trivial things.

Is it funny: Sometimes. Not the best comic relief, if that’s what you’re looking for, but entertaining.

The cover:  As you can see, ORANGE. It reminded me of this one time, where I went to an interview, and the walls were as bright as this color. When I asked the Recruiter why they chose orange, she told me it was because it calms the interviewees down. I’m guessing Mark Manson’s intention was to calm down his readers as well. Note taken.

Do I recommend it: I think this book is a regurgitation and amalgamation of the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene and 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. Though these two books are my favorites, I feel that the S.A.N.G.A.F, is more of a light skimming of the two, so I didn’t really feel as though I gained thorough knowledge from it. It’s great for an easy read and not an in-depth approach to your troubles. Don’t expect it to scalpel through your deep desires and pour over your greatest struggles. I’d say that this book will suit those who have a perceived normal/tiny bit volatile lifestyle. 

Rating: C+

Decluttering Tips for Home or Office

Have you seen those IG pages with pristine homes or offices that are clean and perfectly organized? The kind that make you look at your space and and think, “-shit”.  

Fab Photo by Liana Mikah

Covid-19 has transformed our home into one big birdcage. It’s where we work, exercise, sleep, eat, and even vacation. But how do you relax when there is so much junk everywhere? 

I’ve told my sister about the idea of decluttering her apartment, and she tells me, “I don’t plan on staying here that much longer, maybe a year or so.” But that’s too long to wait! Sitting in a space that is not peaceful, organized, and calming is not worth the money you’re saving.

I’m here to help you organize it; it will be a therapeutic process and change how you feel for the better.

The best way to declutter; start with these simple steps:

  1. Divide the home/office into rooms. Then divide those individual rooms into spaces. (ex: bedroom or a kitchen office)
  2. Once you’ve selected a room (ex: bedroom/kitchen office) – Start categorizing the space.
    1. Drawers – You will start cleaning all drawers in the space first.
    2. Closets – You will start cleaning all drawers in the space second.
    3. Visible space areas – You will start cleaning all v/a in the space third.
  3. Then divide whatever you find in the three categories above into 3 categories.
    1. Things I still use/need.
    2. Things I have not used in 6 months/want to give away.
    3. Things that have no meaning/value (Ex: an old vacation globe that takes up space, a notebook that collects dust, an old I love LA shirt you don’t use).
  4. Know your color palette/style – Not only do you have to throw things out, but you also have to ask yourself, “does this go with the color scheme in this room?”. If not, your place will look like a Macy’s showroom.
  5. Grab a trash bag, and promise to fill it – Fill the bag with things you don’t need and be honest with yourself. How does said item provide peace and meaning in your space?
  6. Create a monthly decluttering schedule – Once a month, commit to decluttering your space. Set a minimal amount of items to either chuck or donate, ex: 5 items per month. The more you do this, the less hours you’ll spend cleaning through mountains of junk. Remember, your time is expensive. 

Benefits: This will ease your mental anxiety over the space and help you find things you always seem to misplace, creating real savings; your time. We spend so much time that we can never get back doing things we could have avoided. By keeping your space organized and clean, it will free your mind and time to do what you truly love!

You will not be able to do this in one sitting, and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself. By decluttering your space, you’ll be able to live/work in an area that fills you with comfort, security, and tranquility. You will also find unique items you forgot you had and help you let go of things that no longer suit your lifestyle or decor. You’ll even think twice before buying!

Hope this helps ❤️